My Hobbes..

My dear Casper sleeps by my feet. His warmth flows through me and makes me feel..loved.

Good Morning!

Just saw this picture and couldnt resisit sharing it.. Ok, so its 8:30 pm here, but surely its morning in some part of the world!! :) Good Morning to all of u in that time zone !!

“Like must marry like or there’ll be no happiness.”..??

“Love isn’t enough to make a successful marriage when two people are as different as we are." - Ashley Wilkes to Scarlett 'O' Hara in 'Gone With The Wind'.

Is it really true? Rather, how much of truth is there in these two sentences? Isnt love all permeating ? Isnt love supposed to bridge all differences and endure? What happened to the adage 'Opposites Attract'? Does the fire of attraction hold only a firefly's warmth and fizzle out before the night dies?

I've always believed that there can be no gap between two people that cannot be narrowed. Personalities might differ, habits might vary, but love brings in a deep understanding that acheives the impossible. Parallel lines converge, razor sharp edges flatten, egos dissolve and love and peace prevail.

V was telling me the other day about his roomie and his wife. Both are Ivy League graduates, he a successful banker and she a medic doing her second residency. Beautiful and successful, belonging to similar communities, they would perhaps on paper - read matrimonial ads - epitomise a 'perfect match'. Alas, unhappiness reigns large in their life and the union seems to be coming towards an end. The reason is 'differences'. Currently based in different cities pursuing their individual careers, the two meet once in a few months. Communication is relegated to phone calls and emails and the strain is taking its toll. He wants her to blend with his family; she prefers meetings them in restaurants once in a few months, he wants a wife who will be by his side; she gives top priority to her work/studies, he wants her to take on his surname; she sticks by her maiden name... and the conflict persists. Inspite of all this they love each other deeply and yes they care too.

I thought to myself - of course I have the advantage of being unaffected by the emotions involved - how would they define their love, how would they explain the care? Love is probably one of the simplest and yet the most complex emotion ever! Love brings in empathy which in turn smoothens the ruffled pages. If that isnt happening, then that 'love' isnt true. It just isnt there! Im not sure what to call the emotion that then exists, but surely it isnt love!

Must two people be similar for harmony to exist? Narayana Murthy and his wife Sudha Murthy have publiclly expressed how different they are from each other. Yet there exists between them unspoken understanding and harmony and yes..love. What is the secret to their formula? Perhaps many of us could learn something there.

There is really no person so rigid or obstinate in ideas, who cannot be viewed in the light of her possibilities rather than her actualities. And once the partner sees that, working on it is just a matter of time! and oh! the possibilities.. they are endless!

'Like need not marry like', 'Love IS enough to make a successful marriage even when two people are different' and YES 'Opposites do attract' !!

Disclaimer - The views expressed above are entirely my own.. Pls dont sue me!! :)